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I have a hole in my heart but it is going to be ok…

Posted by on July 19, 2015 in blog | 3 comments

One thing I know for sure is that my heart and my life will never be the same. This journey to Africa has not been easy and at times it has been down right ugly. BUT I want to be real even if it hurts.  If I had to guess, I bet you want to be real too.I love children’s books and I love the story about the Velveteen Rabbit. “What is REAL?” the Velveteen Rabbit asked the Skin Horse one day. “Does it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?” “Real isn’t how you are made,”...

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Does your love stink too?

Posted by on June 26, 2015 in blog | 4 comments

Sometimes the words just won’t come… The last few months have been hard. I have wanted to say so much but the words just wouldn’t come out the right way. God has been working on my heart. Henri Nouwen once said, “The hard truth is that all people love poorly. We need to forgive and be forgiven everyday, every hour increasingly.” This truth has knocked me off my feet. I have been wrestling with this and it hasn’t been pretty. We think we love well but then hurt comes along and we realize that maybe we were...

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Love those in front of you…

Posted by on May 9, 2015 in blog | 1 comment

I know, I know … we have not posted anything in a while. I have no reason other than life has been busy and hard and the words just wouldn’t quite come together. This week though, watching God work has caused me to pause and share for no other reason than for you to see how good He really is. Erik’s last post shared about Rasheed and his family from Ocean View (http://halls4hope.com/its-dangerous-to-leave-your-gate-unlocked-in-south-africa-or-is-it/). We have been praying for Rasheed and his family and have asked many of you...

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It’s dangerous to leave your gate unlocked in South Africa, or is it?

Posted by on February 3, 2015 in blog | 4 comments

Here in South Africa we lock everything, all the time.  It’s simply dangerous not to.  Melissa and I have locks on our garage door, we lock both of our driveway gates, we lock the gate to our yard and we never go out or go to bed without locking our doors.  Every night I do a perimeter check of all our doors to ensure they are, locked.  Locks are simply non-negotiable.  Today however, Grace locked our front gate in a way that changed all of that for us.  It’s a bit of a story how this happened, but in the end I learned something...

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Please God let me be anything but NORMAL…

Posted by on January 1, 2015 in blog | 3 comments

For years my prayer was “Please, God just give me a normal life. Let me be normal. Let me be comfortable”, and sometimes my prayer would drift towards asking for my life to look like someone else’s because somehow his or her life seemed better than mine. I remember being 18 and sitting outside a tattoo parlor with my best friend and wanting so badly to walk in and get something inked on my body, but we drove away because in my circle, no one would have approved. I also remember that Erik and I had talked about eloping to get...

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Coming home…

Posted by on December 23, 2014 in blog | 3 comments

We recently took a camping trip to the Eastern Cape for 4 days. After a crazy year, we needed to reconnect as a family with just the 4 of us. We enjoyed our trip, but we also enjoyed the return home. Coming home felt good. But is this home? After some thinking, we all started chatting about how coming home to Raleigh will feel. If coming home here felt good, then coming home to Raleigh will feel great. But is that home? More thoughts were stirring and we started chatting once again about coming home but this time the conversation turned to...

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Sweat never smelled so good…

Posted by on November 11, 2014 in blog | 5 comments

The sun has reintroduced itself to us after months of playing hide and seek. Feeling warm, and even hot, actually happened last week. There was sweat on my entire family, on the kids at Football Forward, and the kids at Academy training. The only thing I could think was, “Sweat never smelled so good.” The days of cold and rain are becoming fewer and I love it! You see, being through those hard cold days made the sun feel that much better. Similarly, going through hard times makes us appreciate the good times. Sometimes the...

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Hospitality in the South…South Africa that is

Posted by on October 23, 2014 in blog | 1 comment

I can’t. I don’t know what to say. I’m too busy. I will another time. What if he thinks I’m weird? What if I offend her? What if he says no? I don’t know how. That person is a stranger. That really isn’t my thing… A few weeks ago one of the sweet girls that I coach showed up at our usual pick up spot for church with a little girl who was 6. I assumed It was her sister. I started asking questions because I didn’t know she had a sister so I was surprised. I try really hard to get to know the girls...

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Life lessons from a Labradoodle

Posted by on September 27, 2014 in blog | 4 comments

Who knew that a dog could teach so much? Our sweet, lovable labradoodle has taught me a lot lately. Tessa is the best dog I have ever had in my entire life. I call her my “feel good” dog because I can’t help but feel good when I hug her. When we decided to move to Africa, bringing her with us was a must. Here are the top 10 things I have learned this year from my dog.   10. What goes in must come out...now let me explain. I’m talking about LOVE (not the other stuff so get your mind out of the gutter). Tessa only...

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Time? Who has that anymore?

Posted by on September 8, 2014 in blog | 1 comment

Time. Once it is gone, you can never get it back. It is precious. It is rare. It is the best gift you can give to anyone. It has value. How we spend our time tells a lot about us…what we care about and who we care about. We are probably like you where most days we feel we don’t have enough time and time is running out. If we just had one more hour in the day, we would… For years, I have wanted to read the entire bible. I have wanted my family to read the bible but I have always said “There isn’t enough...

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